INFJs Need

• A degree of independence

• Respect for their dislike for conflict and for their efforts to restore harmony quickly

• An overview of what and who is involved

• No baggage for anyone when it is over

INFPs Need

• Respect for their values and ideals

• Flexibility to explore each opportunity

• To be listened to by someone who cares about them as an individual and treats them as unique

• A harmonious environment within which they can express their observations

INFJ Conflict Generators

• Too much contact with people -- particularly people they perceive as lacking in depth

• Being asked to assimilate vast amounts of detailed information

• Oversensitivity to others' "critical vibes"

• When others seek to exclude the emotional content of any disagreement or fail to appreciate each person

INFP Conflict Generators

• Feeling they have to compromise their values to keep the peace

• An overreaction from another sparking an emotional response

• Believing they are being "walked over" and deciding they have had enough

• Believing someone they care about has been victimized or a cause they are committed to has been slighted

INFJ Conflict Blind Spots

• May be overly influenced by what others want and how they are

• May try and fit the data into their own system of meaning -- at times appearing to have a theory to explain everything

• May not be sufficiently open to the current reality

INFP Conflict Blind Spots

• May not be able to distance themselves from their convictions to be objective

• May be satisfied with partial resolution of the conflict

• May not accept that everyone wants to improve difficult situations

INFJ Areas of Development

• Learn to apply a critical understanding to difficult situations

• Accept that all conflict may not be resolved harmoniously

• Take time to explore logical alternatives

INFP Areas of Development

• Verbalize concerns before people become entrenched in their viewpoints

• Don't take everything in life too seriously

• Remember, when all is not going well, to accentuate the positive rather than be drawn to the negative