First, the backdrop. Carl Jung coined the term "complexes."
According to Jungian psychology as I understand it (which could be a distorted understanding, I admit!), each and every one of us suffers from some kind of complex. In fact, Dr. John Beebe recently stated in a lecture that "being too busy" was a complex! (Do we see an epidemic of that?) So we all have a complex arrangement of complexes in our personalities. Further, as mentioned above, there is a special complex that has received a great deal of attention: the inferiority complex.
Now our fourth cognitive process in the hierarchy of our personality is commonly known as the "inferior" function. It's the function that is ego-syntonic, but is mostly or entirely (depending on who you speak to) in the unconscious. According to Dr. John Beebe, this inferior process is where we experience an "inferiority complex." What he means is: while we aspire to using our fourth function well, we are uncomfortably conscious of the fact that we are inferior in its use, and we know on some level that we must compensate whenever we use it. We are distressingly aware that we can easily screw up around this process in a big way, and are very sensitive to criticism. Whenever we attempt to access it consciously, we know it's an area where we lack skill, and are disquieted by our own inferior use of it. Altogether, this complex tends to "make too much of things." SO! What does that mean for INFJs and INFPs? Let's start that investigation by looking at which cognitive processes show up in the inferior position in both codes. For the INFJ, extraverted Sensing shows up as the inferiority complex, and for the INFP, extraverted Thinking shows up as the inferiority complex. Now for some anecdotes to describe some ways this complex manifests. (Before you read them, you may wish to stop and briefly consider how your fourth process might show up as your inferiority complex so your self-knowledge doesn't get tainted by what comes next.) As an INFJ, I feel amply qualified to share an example of my inferiority complex around extraverted Sensing. Last summer I was invited to attend my high school class reunion. Agh! All the stresses and anxieties of such an event! And my need to be competent with extraverted Sensing showed up in a big way. First of all, a driving need to get my body in *perfect* shape suddenly expressed itself. I needed my physical self to look svelte so I would make a big impact! (Move over, Pamela Anderson.) So, unlike my normal self, I took up swimming (obsessively, every single day), ate little other than fresh fruits and vegetables, and did most everything I could think of to make my body more closely resemble the body that graduated from high school. THEN I took that a step further. I required the perfect clothes! I panicked that I didn't have the "right" outfit to wear to this event! It's embarrassing to admit, but I dropped hundreds of dollars on mail-order garments. I shopped the fashion catalogues, picking out one outfit after another that might make the impression I craved. Naturally (this being my inferior and all), I couldn't quite decide on the style, the cut, the precise look I wanted! My use of the process just isn't that skillful! I didn't want to "stick out," but I didn't want to be lost in the crowd either. So I spent and spent and spent. When the time came to pack, it took two big suitcases to hold all the clothes I purchased. (Mind you, this event was one dinner one evening in one small town. Can you believe it??) I lugged all these clothes home so I could be in the same location as the event and get my mom's help making a decision about what to wear. I could also plan according to the weather, and I even sneaked a peek at the restaurant ahead of time so I'd be familiar with the setting. (I bet my dad was laughing his butt off.) Did I mention we rented a convertible to arrive in? We were big show-offs! I admit I realized early on that I was in the grip of something (about the third day of swimming), and I chose to give myself space to be with it instead of fighting it. I didn't have it -- it had me! And... I had the luxury of giving into it. Luckily I am blessed with a wonderful, supportive husband who didn't embarrass me around my complex. So here's the punchline: I wore something old. No kidding! I ended up wearing an outfit bought several months previously. I ended up shipping back nearly every thing I had bought via mail order. (I'm still scared to look at what I paid in shipping costs.) Was I overcompensating or what?!? Honestly, all this fuss for maybe 6 hours of my life with people I never see anymore! This is what I wore. (You can laugh -- I realize it's a letdown after so much build-up. Hey, I'm congratulating myself that I didn't get stupid and wear my Oscar dress!) I was in a class this past weekend, and we talked about the part of me we called the "Ta Da Child." She's the one who's the
show-off. She likes showing off! She wants to be noticed and applauded.
She's all about making an impression. She wears sparkly skirts and fun shoes and shiny jewelry. Often when she appears, the effect is one of "Ta da!!!!" -- just like the pretty girl in the magic
act who jumps out of a box in a spangly outfit. Now I need to emphasize here that my inferiority complex showed up around my appearance, but it also shows up around my accomplishments. It's about wanting to impress people. Other INFJs may experience their inferior in different ways related to their extraverted Sensing. Some INFJs express their Se through art, decorating, dancing, writing, or music, to name a few--so don't assume every INFJ is going to express their inferiority complex through what they wear. It often does have something to do with appearances, however -- looking good or showing off! Time to shift gears. Not having INFP preferences, I don't have as much light to shed on the inferior use of extraverted Thinking, although I addressed it on a previous page. I do know that INFPs I've talked to generally have an awareness that they have and use Te. I see the Te show up with INFPs in joining "debate squads" (Te "rearranging people's thinking"), and I sometimes see it with an interest in Chess. And I seem to encounter a lot of INFPs and ISFPs romantically involved with lawyers and extraverted Thinking types, so the attraction is certainly there! For instance, one INFP wrote to say:
Often INFPs enjoy planning, organizing, or arranging things -- one of my clients loves putting together jigsaw puzzles! Another will analyze weight charts and use a bathroom scale regularly to achieve her optimal weight. And this is where the inferiority complex around Te will show up. INFPs sometimes become really upset when they don't organize things as efficiently as they would like to. Perhaps they think through the steps needed to accomplish something, and then don't follow through. In fact, Dr. Berens says that perhaps it is this aspirational use of Te that causes many INFPs to believe they have preferences for "J" rather than "P." Here's another example of an INFP sharing her "inferiority complex" in action:
This certainly looks like aspirational Te, but I don't see the signature touchiness and sensitivity showing up here that indicates an inferiority complex is in full expression. Perhaps that signature didn't show up in my reunion anecdote either, but trust me it was lurking. Maybe I need to go poke fun at her messy spare room, and I'll provoke more touchiness than I'd like....? Dr. Beebe talks about inferior Te wanting to "plan things." I suddenly realized I may be failing my INFP clients by not emphasizing goal-setting and encouraging them to plan more. Hmmmmm... On the other hand, I once challenged an INFP client to deliver me a rough sketch of his plan to accomplish a goal, and I never ever got it. He would promise and promise and yet it never ever arrived. I do see the inferiority complex compel a lot of INFPs who are often seeking the logic behind things to a crazy degree. Sometimes a cynical attitude manifests from their inferior. In order to "conquer" their inferiority complex, INFPs regularly turn up in technical fields (science, computers, maths) as a way to compensate for an internal feeling of inferiority in these areas, and struggle to reconcile being both "right-brained" and "left-brained." Where I also notice a lot of INFPs "hooked" by their inferiority complex is when they mis-type themselves as INTPs. They are determined to put the "T" in their code! It can be uncomfortable to be around someone who is trying to "prove something" in a way that screams they are desperately trying to overcome their weakness. (On that note, my show-off side regularly offends people -- particularly those with extraverted Sensing in their shadow!) Our touchiness causes others to walk on eggshells. And Beebe says we all experience profound shame around our inferior process. A paradox is created around people aspiring to overcome their sense of inferiority, because that area of vulnerability can never be overcome, no matter how much we practice or work at it. When we try to accomplish things using our inferior process, we display the "strain of the anima" -- in other words, others notice how hard we're trying. I'm hoping this page sets off a few "ahas" for INF_s, who will then write me with more wonderful anecdotes of aspirational use of their fourth function that do a good job of demonstrating the inferiority complex. It's a rich place to look for INFJ/INFP differences. |