How The Processes Show Up

Let's start with the judging processes...

Introverted Feeling
Introverted Feeling is about Consistency with Values

It focuses on:

• Internal harmony or personal comfort

• Feeling right about a situation

• Upholding personal truth and values

Its approach is to:

• Keep things close to the chest

• Apply ethics to a situation

• Live in accordance with personal values

Introverted Feeling's verbal communications are delivered in a way that upholds values and feelings, i.e.:

• "This feels right to me"

• "I have a good feeling"

• "That's not acceptable"

Introverted Feeling's nonverbal cues are: kind, considerate, and non-judgmental until values are crossed; then it becomes absolute in judgment.

To build rapport with introverted Feeling, we can try:

• Being supportive, empathetic, and sensitive

• Approaching situations in a personal way

• Focusing on individual purpose and meaning

• Relating situations to personal values without challenging the other person's values

Here are the sorts of complaints we make about introverted Feeling when we feel uncomfortable.  We say the person is...

• Selfish and unforgiving

• Attached to ideals not championed by others

• Quiet or retreating; hard to reach

• Ignoring or overlooking of hierarchy

• Concentrating too much on personal feelings

Extraverted Feeling
Extraverted Feeling is about Impact on Relationships

It focuses on:

• Harmony in the moment for all

• Ensuring others' values are met

• Recognition for contributions (self and others)

Its approach is to:

• Facilitate everyone being comfortable with the process and the decision

• Seek consensus and cooperation from all

• Decide based on reactions of others

Extraverted Feeling's verbal communications sound empathetic and are delivered in a way that pay attention to impact on relationships, i.e.:

• "Are you okay?"

• "I appreciate it"

• "Thank you"

• "Do you feel good about this?"

Extraverted Feeling's nonverbal cues are: caring, interest; exudes warmth; engages in harmonious interaction with everyone; appears approachable.

To build rapport with extraverted Feeling, we can try:

• Being warm, friendly, and empathetic

• Developing a personal relationship

• Praising and rewarding

• Seeking to collaborate

• Providing opportunities for consensus

Here are the sorts of complaints we make about extraverted Feeling when we feel uncomfortable.  We say the person is...

• Superficial, insincere, or shallow

• Too aware of how everyone is reacting

• Personally hyper-sensitive

• Over-focused on everyone feeling good

• Overzealously helpful

Now for the perceiving processes...

Introverted Intuiting
Introverted Intuiting is about Seeking Insights and Meanings

It focuses on:

• Identifying underlying meaning

• Identifying the inter-relatedness of data

• Synthesizing the information to reveal the "golden nuggets"

Its approach is to:

• Just state how or what action to take

• Rely on insight to develop vision for the future

• Envision without the need for tangible support

Introverted Intuiting's verbal communications are delivered in absolutes with a quest for meaning, i.e.:

• "Why?"

• Identifying the hidden meaning

• States what is going on behind the scenes

Introverted Intuiting's nonverbal cues are: reflective, serious, and confident; may appear complex, disengaged; could appear hesitant to respond.

To build rapport with introverted Intuiting, we can try:

• Providing a theoretical framework

• Using symbolic, conceptual language

• Relating concrete experience to theories

• Asking them to show you how they made their connections

• Asking for the long-term vision

Here are the sorts of complaints we make about introverted Intuiting when we feel uncomfortable.  We say the person is...

• Serious and arrogant

• Complex and vague

• Theoretical or lacking specifics

• Inflexible and adversarial

• Out of touch with reality

Extraverted Intuiting
Extraverted Intuiting is about Seeking Patterns and Possibilities

It focuses on:

• Possibilities for the future

• Identifying connections and patterns within the data

• Connecting the current situation with other possible situations -- what could be

Its approach is to:

• Propose options

• Respond enthusiastically to the ideas of others

• Get excited about doing something differently

Extraverted Intuiting's verbal communications are delivered through possibilities, i.e.:

• "We could do this, or maybe that"

• Connects the dots without drawing the lines

• Rapid delivery following stream-of-consciousness thought

Extraverted Intuiting's nonverbal cues are: energetic, excited, enthusiastic; bounces easily from one topic to another; enjoys the rush of something new.

To build rapport with extraverted Intuiting, we can try:

• Presenting the big picture first

• Remaining open to new ideas

• Providing opportunities to brainstorm alternatives

• Allowing room to explore options without judgment

• Avoiding the need for accurate details

Here are the sorts of complaints we make about extraverted Intuiting when we feel uncomfortable.  We say it's...

• Lacking in follow-through

• Random, flighty, and chaotic

• Too comfortable with inaccurate specifics and detail

• Disrespectful of traditional approaches

• Overly optimistic and enthusiastic

I think the most valuable thing on this page is the complaints we make about the processes.  If you find yourself lodging any one of these complaints, it may be a flag about what function is alien to you.

It may also signal discomfort with your own best processes if you have internalized too many social messages about how you *should* be in the world.  This could even put you at odds with your own best procesess!  For instance, an INFP may experience their introverted Feeling as "selfish" and feel discomfort around the function if their family shamed this process while they were growing up.  Or an INFJ may experience their extraverted Feeling as being "too nice" or makes them a "chump" if they were shamed around using this process.

Regardless, this manner of labeling and finger-pointing is a red flag that something's going on and deserves closer examination.  Simply demonizing it and striving to eradicate it never works.  What you abhor in another person is your own fear mirrored back at you.

As John Beebe says, "Making yourself right doesn't work in any psychology."

So enjoy examining! 

TRADEMARKS